My Kids Want to Be Entitled

I love my kids and I do a lot for them. They go through phases where they think they rule the world and they get an entitled, superior attitude and that is not going to fly. You guys are no better than anyone else, you do not deserve special treatment.

There are things that I need to do and there are things I don’t. They have trouble seeing the difference sometimes.

Kraus House Mom

Things I Need to Do VS. What I Don’t

Need-Feed you
Don’t-I don’t have to make your special requests

 

Need-Make sure your clothes are clean

Don’t-I don’t have to put your clothes away for you or pick out your outfit everyday, especially if you’re going to complain about my choice.

 

Need-To make sure you are dressed

Don’t-I don’t have to brush your hair everyday, you are fully capable of doing it, just keep track of all your brushes.

 

Need-To clothe you

Don’t-I don’t need to keep track of where you left your sneakers, jackets or the socks I just handed you.

 

Need-To make sure you do your homework.

Don’t- I don’t need for you to enjoy it.

 

Need-To provide you with the technology needed in order to complete your assignments.

Don’t-I don’t need to allow you full reign or use of said technology.

 

Need-To make sure you are clean

Don’t-I don’t need to let you take a 30-40 minute shower or get you fancy soap or body wash to use.

 

My kids don’t act like this all the time, if fact it can be a rare thing. But when they do, I make sure they know that the world doesn’t revolve around them and they need to be conscious of the way they act and speak.

35 thoughts on “My Kids Want to Be Entitled

  1. Stick to your rules because kids need to know they are not entitled to anything. Your responsibility is to love them and keep them safe. I think kids nowadays think that they deserve so much more than that. I want my son to know that working hard is the best way to get what he wants.

  2. Oh yes! Good standard rules to stick to because when you’re the Grandma the rules go out the window. It’s how we Grandmas roll. Anything goes! *wink

  3. Independence is the best! Love the fine line of teaching them independence vs making sure they don’t have an attitude of entitlement.

  4. True story! It’s so important to pass that lesson along. We all know some adult who was never taught that lesson as a child. I know I wouldn’t want my child to become THAT adult. 😉

  5. This is such a great post. I can completely relate to all of this. Kids seem to want everything! I think it’s extremely important to teach them all these lessons.

  6. I think we all get this way from time to time and it is good to have people put us in our place – especially when it is kids. It is funny when they do think we revolve around them and then they get that reminder! I am glad that I am not the only one with kids that think a 30 – 40 minute shower is normal.

  7. This is brilliant! I must say, I agree with every single one of your points. There’s a huge different between a need and a want and you’ve put a spotlight on a lot of things that kids need to learn – such as special requests for dinner? No, it doesn’t need to be catered to. Looks like your children are being raised really well, they will have great values!

    Lisa Favre
    http://marblecrumbs.com

  8. It is important for kids to know what is expected of them. They need to learn what behaviors are acceptable.

  9. There are so many kids out there today that feel like they deserve to have everything they want. My kids have to work for something they want. Once a month they pick an item they want and do chores to work towards it.

  10. It is important to set boundaries for kids. Learning what is a need and what are wants is a great place to start.

  11. It is important to teach our children what they are entitled to versus what they must work to earn. It will help them be better adults.

  12. Ugh My kids get the same way. My youngest the other day, I asked him to put his laundry away and he said, “Why don’t you just do it”? I almost smacked him lol.

  13. It can be easy to give into requests and then they turn into demands. It’s great that your kids rarely act entitled!

  14. I don’t have any kids but can see how kids would need continual guidance and reminders that they don’t own the world. Glad you have found ways around this when your kids are having that rare instance.

  15. SO true. I think today’s young generation is feeling more entitled than any other before it. For sure, us parents are responsible for fueling that sense of entitlement and it’s time for us to do what our moms and dads did for us: not give us everything we want. In the end, our children will have a much better chance of success in life if we give them that tough love and they are growing up.

  16. It is definitely important for kids to know what is expected of them. This is definitely a great lesson all kids must be taught.

  17. It is important for children to learn responsibility and expectations. It sounds like your rules make that clear. I am sure one day they will thank you.

  18. Great post! I like the way have you split the rules to need and don’t. This helps in not micromanaging the children, and teaching them their responsibilities at the same time.

  19. Great foundation. I am exactly this way with my children. They will appreciate it when they are adults and able to function in the world.

  20. This is so true. I wish more parents would feel like this and would stop letting their children get away with everything.

  21. This is such a great post for all parents to read. lol I would have to say that at times I think all kids feel they are entitled. Thanks for the dos and don’ts.

  22. I love this I follow a fair but firm attitude towards my children of course I love them I want them to have everything but they need to know there’s limits. All kids will try to push your limits and push a button LOL

  23. I think one of the most important things you can teach a child is independence to take care of things for themselves. I think it not only makes our lives easier, it also makes them feel a sense of accomplishment.

  24. I love that we taught our kids early on how to be independent and do things for themselves. We also taught them to ask for help if needed and it really has helped them grow into amazing adults.

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